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Week 4 of 7 · Listen to Leverage
The Performer · Listen to Leverage
Last week you opened the doors.
This week each one starts telling you something.
Performers chase. Performers also love their own voice. This is the week to ask one open question and then do the hardest Performer move of all β stop talking. Listen for the signal. Then leverage what you heard into the right next move that same day, not next week.
Carried in from Expand
10 introductions secured · 25 net-new names from referrals · Top 10 warmest still talking
This Week
Listen to Leverage β stop asking, start hearing, then book the right next move same-day
What You Leave With
5 qualified discovery calls booked · 3 buyer/seller signals documented · 2 referrals handed back to the people who introduced you
Before Memorial Day weekend
Memorial Day is May 26. Know what it actually honors before you post.
Memorial Day honors U.S. service members who died in military service. It is a day of mourning, not celebration. Veterans Day (November 11) honors all who served β living and deceased. Easy to mix up, and agents do it every year. If you post this weekend, "Honoring those who gave everything" lands. "Happy Memorial Day" doesn't β it isn't a happy holiday for the families it's built around. No sales tie-in, no listing, no rate quote. If in doubt, post nothing and observe the moment.
The Performer · Listen to Leverage
Weekly Flow
Six things to wrap by Friday. Tap each one when it's done.
Daily habits
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Respond
Clear your inbox, DMs, and missed calls before any new outreach.
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Connect
One person you already know. Like, comment, or check in. One a day.
This week β Listen to Leverage (Performer)
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One open question per conversation β then shut up
"What's been on your mind lately?" or "What's keeping you up at night these days?" Let the silence sit for five full seconds. People fill silence with truth.
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Same-day discovery call when you hear a signal
When someone mentions moving, downsizing, refinancing, helping a parent, getting married β book the call before the day ends. Calendar invite. Not "let's stay in touch."
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Document every signal in CRM β exact words
Voice-memo to your phone the second you leave the conversation. Verbatim. The language they used IS the qualifying data β paraphrasing dilutes it.
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Post 1 Reel, 1 post, 1 story this week
Just confirmation it happened. The what, how, and when get covered Thursday in Reels for Realtors.
The Performer · Listen to Leverage
In Person
Four places to be. Three ways to make the listening actually land.
Where to listen
Open-house second visit
The buyer who came through last week and didn't make an offer was telling you something. Go back this Saturday and listen for what they actually said. "I love the kitchen butβ¦" is a qualifying signal. Don't sell β ask.
"What's been keeping you looking?"
Coffee with a top-10 warmest
One name from the 10 intros you got last week. 30 minutes. Performer trap: monologue. Performer win: three questions, 70% listening.
"What's keeping you up at night these days?"
The brokerage drop-by
15 minutes at a brokerage where you have 1β2 contacts. Coffee at the front desk. Listen for what their colleagues are working on β agents tip each other off about clients constantly without realizing it.
"What's been weird about the market lately?"
Memorial Day weekend visibility
Friday or Saturday at a sphere event β a parade, a youth sports tournament, a barbecue you're invited to. Performers win by being present. THIS weekend, lead with respect. Show up. Don't pitch.
"Are you doing anything to mark the weekend?"
How to make the listening land
One question, then silence
The Performer's hardest move. After you ask, count to five before saying anything else. The silence is where the signal arrives.
Document within an hour
Voice-memo your phone the second you leave. Exact words. Verbatim. The language IS the qualifying data β paraphrasing kills the signal.
Same-day next step booked
Performers lose qualified leads by waiting 48 hours. Hear a signal, book the call before bed. Specific time, calendar invite β not "let's stay in touch."
The Performer · Listen to Leverage
Online
Four DMs and threads to read. Three ways to make the listening actually convert.
Where to listen
DM replies from last week's intro asks
Every reply from your 10 intro asks is sitting in your DMs. Don't pitch β read each reply for the signal. "Funny you ask, I was just talking toβ¦" is a different signal than "thanks for thinking of me."
"Tell me more about [the name they mentioned]."
Story replies on your last 5 Reels
Every story reply is a small signal. People reply to stories they identify with. Read what they said β not what they "liked."
"What about that hit you?"
Comments on your posts and adjacent ones
The comments section is where intent surfaces publicly. Listen for the comments that contain a specific situation: "We're thinking about moving back to TX next year." That's a signal.
DM them: "Saw your comment β want to know what's actually going on here right now?"
Pages you commented on last week
You spent Engage commenting on dream-client-adjacent accounts. Some of them commented back. Go look at THEIR pages and read what they're posting about their year.
DM: "Hey β saw your post about [thing]. Genuinely curious β how's that going?"
How to make the listening land
Read DMs before you publish anything new
Listen first, then publish β never the reverse. Your next post should be informed by what people told you in their replies.
Tag signals to a "hot list" in CRM
Every name that gave you a real signal in the last 7 days gets tagged "hot." Don't blast them. They each get a 1:1 discovery call invite within 14 days.
Voice memo reply instead of text
When a DM goes 3+ messages, switch to voice. You become memorable. Their voice reply tells you ten things their text reply doesn't.
The Relationship Builder · Listen to Leverage
Last week your friendships widened.
This week you hear what they're actually planning.
Relationship Builders don't qualify with questionnaires. You qualify by being there long enough that someone tells you what's happening in their life β and then you remember it the next time you see them. Listen to Leverage is the week your slow conversations turn into the small offer ("I have a thought, if it's useful") that lands without ever feeling like a pitch.
Carried in from Expand
3 quiet intros earned · 3 intros given first · 10 handwritten cards mailed · A new regular at your spot
This Week
Listen to Leverage β stay 10 minutes longer, notice what's changed, send one useful resource within 24 hours
What You Leave With
3 life-change signals heard and acted on · 5 useful resources sent (not pitches) · 1 quiet "would you help me withβ¦" earned
Before Memorial Day weekend
Memorial Day is May 26. Know what it actually honors before you post.
Memorial Day honors U.S. service members who died in military service. It is a day of mourning, not celebration. Veterans Day (November 11) honors all who served β living and deceased. Easy to mix up, and agents do it every year. If you post this weekend, "Honoring those who gave everything" lands. "Happy Memorial Day" doesn't β it isn't a happy holiday for the families it's built around. No sales tie-in, no listing, no rate quote. If in doubt, post nothing and observe the moment.
The Relationship Builder · Listen to Leverage
Weekly Flow
Six things to wrap by Friday. Tap each one when it's done.
Daily habits
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Respond
Clear every message and reply before any new outreach. Listening starts with closing yesterday's loops.
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Connect
One person you already know. Like a post, send a quick check-in, comment on a story. One action, every day.
This week β Listen to Leverage (Relationship Builder)
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Stay 10 minutes longer everywhere you already go
Your spot. Kid pickup. The gym. Your group. Linger 10 minutes after you'd normally leave. Listen for what's changed since last week β new car, new haircut, mention of a parent moving in, talk of downsizing.
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When a friend mentions a life change, ask ONE careful follow-up
Then send a useful resource within 24 hours. Not a pitch. A school zone map. An article. The name of a good handyman. A senior-living visit checklist. Useful, not transactional.
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Send 5 voice memos this week β each referencing something specific they told you last time
"Hey, was thinking about what you said about [thing]. How's that going?" Voice memos are the move 99% of agents skip and the one that makes you the agent people actually remember.
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Post 1 Reel, 1 post, 1 story this week
Just confirmation it happened. The what, how, and when get covered Thursday in Reels for Realtors.
The Relationship Builder · Listen to Leverage
In Person
Four places to be. Three ways to make the listening actually land.
Where to listen
Your "regular" spot
You're recognized now. The barista knows your order. Today, instead of working through emails, sit at the counter for 30 minutes and listen to the conversations around you. The signals are in the air.
"How's your week been so far?"
School pickup or your kid's activity
Pickup is where the qualifying signals get said in passing. Stay 10 minutes after the bell. Linger at the field. Other parents talk about moves at pickup more than anywhere.
"How's the rest of your year shaping up?"
A returning coffee with the deepened friendship
The one friendship that visibly deepened in Expand. Schedule a return walk or coffee. Don't bring real estate. Listen for what they say is happening at work, at home, with their parents.
"How's everything actually going?"
Memorial Day weekend, your community
A neighborhood gathering, a friend's barbecue, a small parade. Show up with intention. Mention nothing about your job. Be the friend, not the agent. Listen for who's traveling, who's grieving, who's quiet.
"How are you doing this weekend, really?"
How to make the listening land
Listen for the second sentence
The first sentence is small talk. The second is where the signal lives. "Good, busy" β "My mom's been struggling and we've been figuring out next steps." Wait for the second sentence.
Send the useful thing within 24 hours
When you hear a signal, follow up within a day. Not a pitch. A name. An article. A checklist. Send it with no agenda β "Saw this and thought of you."
Remember it next time
Write down the signal so you bring it up next time you see them. Relationship Builders win by remembering. "How did the meeting with your mom's care team go?" is the highest-trust sentence in real estate.
The Relationship Builder · Listen to Leverage
Online
Four DMs and threads to read. Three ways to make the listening actually convert.
Where to listen
Story views from your sphere
Who's watching your stories? They're warm. Reply to a few of THEIR stories first β a specific real reply, not a heart emoji. Listen for what they share back.
"Wait, where is that?" or "I love that."
DM threads with warming friends
The 5 voice memos you sent in Expand probably got replies. Re-read them for the small details. The signal is often a single passing line: "Yeah, we'll see how this summer goes."
"Tell me what 'we'll see' means β no agenda, just curious."
Group threads in your small communities
Your faith group, your book club, your kid's class group chat. Lurk for a day. Listen for who's stressed, who's planning a move, who's quietly looking for a recommendation.
When relevant: "Hey, I might be able to help with that β DM me if you want to chat."
"Thinking of you" shares (no agenda)
Send 3 "thinking of you" non-real-estate links to specific humans this week. Their reaction tells you what's actually going on in their year. The link is the listening device.
"Saw this and thought of you."
How to make the listening land
Read DMs slowly β twice
Skim once for content, read again for tone. Relationship Builders hear what isn't being said. "Things are fine." means something different than "Things are fine!"
Voice memo back β not text
When a DM gets real, switch to voice. The voice memo back is the move 99% of agents skip. It IS the relationship deposit.
Log the human details, not the business ones
Their kid's name. Their dog's name. Where they vacation. What their job actually involves. Real estate signals come second; humanity comes first.
The Trusted Advisor · Listen to Leverage
Last week you set the table.
This week the right calls come back.
Trusted Advisors don't generate leads from cold posts β they generate them from partners who finally call with a name. Listen to Leverage is the week you take every strategic partner call same-day, ask three clarifying questions before quoting anything, and document what each partner is hearing in their world. The partners feed the top-10 list. The top-10 list feeds the year.
Carried in from Expand
3 strategic partner calls completed · 3 referrals given first · 2 future-top-10 elevated · 1 new partner vertical opened
This Week
Listen to Leverage β take every partner call, ask 3 clarifying questions, document the signals
What You Leave With
3 partner calls returned with named leads · 2 ideal-client-profile refinements documented · 1 referral handed to a partner before they asked
Before Memorial Day weekend
Memorial Day is May 26. Know what it actually honors before you post.
Memorial Day honors U.S. service members who died in military service. It is a day of mourning, not celebration. Veterans Day (November 11) honors all who served β living and deceased. Easy to mix up, and agents do it every year. If you post this weekend, "Honoring those who gave everything" lands. "Happy Memorial Day" doesn't β it isn't a happy holiday for the families it's built around. No sales tie-in, no listing, no rate quote. If in doubt, post nothing and observe the moment.
The Trusted Advisor · Listen to Leverage
Weekly Flow
Six things to wrap by Friday. Tap each one when it's done.
Daily habits
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Respond
Clear every message before you start. Your responsiveness IS your brand. Trusted Advisors return calls and messages within 4 hours.
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Connect
One real person β like a recent post, send a market update, comment on a story. Ideally someone in your top-10's extended network.
This week β Listen to Leverage (Trusted Advisor)
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Take every strategic partner call same-day
Even if it's only to say "I have 10 minutes now or 30 tomorrow." Trusted Advisors return calls within 4 hours β that responsiveness is what makes the partner refer the next name to you and not someone else.
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Ask 3 clarifying questions before quoting anything
"What's their timeline?" / "What's their actual concern?" / "What have they tried already?" The qualifying questions are the leverage. Most agents quote a number when asked β you ask three questions, then quote.
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Give 1 referral to a partner before asking for one
Lead with giving. Every single time. The reciprocity comes back if and only if the gift goes first. This is the entire Trusted Advisor playbook in one sentence.
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Post 1 Reel, 1 post, 1 story this week
Just confirmation it happened. The what, how, and when get covered Thursday in Reels for Realtors.
The Trusted Advisor · Listen to Leverage
In Person
Four places to be. Three ways to make the listening actually land.
Where to listen
Lunch with a strategic partner
One of the 3 strategic partners from Expand. Lunch, not coffee β long enough for the second-layer conversation to surface. Listen for what their PRACTICE is seeing, not just what they're personally working on.
"What's been the most common situation walking through your door this month?"
A top-10 client check-in
One name from your top-10. Not a pitch. A check-in. 20 minutes. The top-10 are your highest-signal humans β they hear the moves before anyone else in your network.
"How's your year going? What's keeping you busy?"
A future-top-10 elevation moment
One of the future-top-10 you started developing. Take them out for coffee. Listen for what would move them officially into top-10 β their volume of referrals, their network, the quality of their decisions.
"Tell me about your year. What's been working?"
Memorial Day moment β top-10 mom check-in
For top-10 contacts who have lost family in service, this weekend is heavy. A quiet handwritten note delivered Friday. No agenda. No real estate. Just acknowledgment.
"Thinking of you and your family this weekend."
How to make the listening land
3 clarifying questions before any quote
The Trusted Advisor's signature move. Most agents quote a number when asked. You ask "What's their timeline?" / "What's their actual concern?" / "What's the bigger picture?" Then you quote.
Document what their world is showing
After every partner call, log what THEIR clients are signaling. A "partner intel" field in your CRM captures what's happening in adjacent professions. That intel sharpens your ideal-client profile every month.
Refine the ideal-client profile in writing
Each week, the top-10 list and partner intel should sharpen who your IDEAL client actually is. Write the one-sentence profile and send it to your strategic partners β they can only refer you if they have the exact words.
The Trusted Advisor · Listen to Leverage
Online
Four channels to read. Three ways to make the listening actually convert.
Where to listen
LinkedIn DMs and message requests
LinkedIn is where Trusted Advisors get referrals. Open every message request from a professional. Listen for what they're working on this quarter β their goals reveal who they need to know, and you might be that person.
"What's the most interesting thing you're working on right now?"
Top-10 newsletter and email replies
When your top-10 list replies to your email or newsletter, that's a signal. Even a one-word reply means they read it. Re-engage warmly β listening continues in the reply chain.
"Glad it landed. What's on your radar this quarter?"
Partner-shared content
When a strategic partner shares something, comment thoughtfully. Their network sees it. The comment is your listening post in their orbit.
Comment publicly. DM privately if you have specific insight.
The handwritten follow-up to the call
After a partner call, send a handwritten thank-you card with one specific reference to what they shared. The card is the listening proof. They'll keep it on their desk for months β and refer the next name.
"Loved what you said about [specific thing] β that's been on my mind since."
How to make the listening land
Lead with giving every single time
Even when you're tired. Even when you're "due" a referral. The reciprocity ONLY comes back if the gift goes first. This is the entire Trusted Advisor playbook.
Document partner intel in CRM
Every partner call produces 1β3 pieces of intel about adjacent professions. Log it. The intel compounds. After 6 months, you know your market deeper than anyone else.
Send the ideal-client sentence biweekly
Your partners can only refer the clients they can describe. Send the one-sentence profile in writing every 2 weeks. "I help [specific person] do [specific thing] when [specific situation]." The clearer the sentence, the more named referrals you get.
The Market Authority · Listen to Leverage
Last week the watchers replied.
This week you ask the qualifying question β then shut up.
Market Authorities publish, publish, publish. This week you stop publishing for a few days and open the DMs. Every watcher who replied last week gets ONE qualifying question β "Is this for you, or are you watching for someone specific?" β and then you let them tell you who they actually are. Buyer. Seller. Referrer. Just curious. The classification is the leverage.
Carried in from Expand
5 watcher-to-referrer asks made · Collaboration confirmed and dated · 1 new niche opened · 3+ PCS pieces shipped
This Week
Listen to Leverage β pause publishing, send the qualifying DM, classify every reply
What You Leave With
10 qualifying DMs replied to · 5 watcher intents classified (buyer/seller/referrer/curious) · 2 hot leads moved to discovery call
Before Memorial Day weekend
Memorial Day is May 26. Know what it actually honors before you post.
Memorial Day honors U.S. service members who died in military service. It is a day of mourning, not celebration. Veterans Day (November 11) honors all who served β living and deceased. Easy to mix up, and agents do it every year. If you post this weekend, "Honoring those who gave everything" lands. "Happy Memorial Day" doesn't β it isn't a happy holiday for the families it's built around. No sales tie-in, no listing, no rate quote. If in doubt, post nothing and observe the moment.
The Market Authority · Listen to Leverage
Weekly Flow
Six things to wrap by Friday. Tap each one when it's done.
Daily habits
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Respond
Clear every market question and DM same-day. Speed = credibility for the Market Authority.
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Connect
One real person β like a recent post, send a market snapshot, comment on a story. Prioritize people who engage with your data.
This week β Listen to Leverage (Market Authority)
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Pause publishing for 2β3 days
Market Authorities have built the muscle. Letting it rest for 48 hours forces you to open the DMs instead of staring at the editorial calendar. The pause IS the listening posture.
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Send 1 qualifying question per warm DM thread
"Quick one, is this for you, or are you watching for someone specific?" Then shut up. Let them respond fully. The silence is where they classify themselves.
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Classify every replied DM in CRM
Buyer / Seller / Referrer / Just curious. Tag with date and the language they used. The classification IS the leverage β each tag gets a different next-step playbook.
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Post 1 Reel, 1 post, 1 story this week
Just confirmation it happened. The what, how, and when get covered Thursday in Reels for Realtors.
The Market Authority · Listen to Leverage
In Person
Four places to be. Three ways to make the listening actually land.
Where to listen
A neighborhood-specific in-person moment
Show up at the neighborhood you wrote about last week. Coffee shop, farmer's market, local restaurant. Listen for what people are actually saying about prices, schools, traffic. Your data was the magnet β now the conversation is the signal.
"Are you from around here?"
A builder lunch or open house in your niche
One of your declared niches. Builder lunch-and-learn, new construction open house, builder community welcome event. Listen for what builders are seeing in pricing, absorption, buyer demand.
"What's been moving lately in [community]?"
The collaboration planning call (in person if possible)
The collaboration you confirmed in Expand. If the collaborator is local, meet in person to plan the format and topic. Listen for what THEIR audience cares about β that's the content angle.
"Walk me through what your audience usually responds to most."
Memorial Day β military community / PCS season
If your market is near a base or has a strong military community, Memorial Day weekend is heavy. Show up to a memorial service or veterans' event. Solemn presence. No pitch. No content angle. Just respect.
Nothing. Just be there.
How to make the listening land
One qualifying question, then radical silence
Market Authorities are tempted to keep teaching. This week, ask the question and SHUT UP. The silence is where they classify themselves β buyer, seller, referrer, or curious.
Tag every reply by intent type
Buyer / Seller / Referrer / Just curious. Each classification gets a different next-step playbook. The CRM tags are how you scale the listening past memory.
Let DMs inform next week's content
What you hear this week IS next week's content brief. The questions watchers asked, the situations they described β those become the next 5 Reels. Listening IS the content engine.
The Market Authority · Listen to Leverage
Online
Four channels to read. Three ways to make the listening actually convert.
Where to listen
DM replies to last week's data Reels
Every reply is a signal. Read each carefully. Look for the language they used β "I've been watching" vs "I'm trying to figure out ifβ¦" are different intent levels.
"Quick one β is this for you, or are you watching for someone specific?"
Save and share counts on your Reels
Saves matter more than likes. Who SAVED is who's serious. DM the top 5 savers from the past 2 weeks.
"Saw you saved [Reel]. Quick one β what part hit closest to your situation?"
Email list replies
If your May Market Snapshot drip went out, the replies are gold. Each one is a self-identified warmer-than-warm contact. Read every word.
"Glad the data landed. What's prompting the watching?"
Story polls and questions
Run ONE story poll this week β "What's the question you really want answered about [niche]?" The replies tell you exactly what to publish next.
Reply 1:1 to the most specific poll responses.
How to make the listening land
Pause the publishing engine for 48 hours
The hardest move for Market Authorities. The pause forces the listening. You'll feel uncomfortable. That's the signal it's working.
Use the same 4-tag taxonomy everywhere
Buyer / Seller / Referrer / Curious. Consistent tagging across Instagram DMs, email replies, story polls, Reels comments. The taxonomy IS the system that scales.
Let listening inform next week's editorial calendar
Next week's content is in this week's DMs. Read for patterns. The questions repeated 3+ times become the next 5 posts.
